by: Alissa Horneland, BC-HIS
Whether we need to do it because we are frustrated from repeating ourselves or because we are concerned about their safety, telling a loved one that they need hearing aids is a tough conversation to have. No matter the cause, it is essential to approach this conversation with empathy and care.
When the time comes that you must tell your loved one they need hearing aids, hopefully, the tips below will help to make the conversation as comfortable and impactful as possible:
They say, "There is a time and a place for everything". You need to have this conversation privately and in a quiet space. Somewhere with no distractions or interruptions. Perhaps a cup of tea around the kitchen table when no one else is home?
Timing is important as well. Make sure it is a time when you are both relaxed and not rushing anywhere. It is best to figure out when your loved one is most relaxed and not distracted during the day and approach them then.
Put yourself in their shoes before approaching your loved one. Try to understand how difficult it would be to recognize and acknowledge hearing loss. Many types of hearing loss happen slowly over time, making it difficult for your loved one to realize it. Hearing loss becomes more common as we age, making it a marker of "getting old" and a physical decline for some.
When you have the conversation with your loved one, it is important to acknowledge that you understand how difficult it must be to struggle with their hearing loss. Offer your support and let them know that you want to help them get the treatments and testing they need so they can find a solution that allows them to enjoy the sounds of life again.
Examples always help, particularly when someone does not recognize the signs of hearing loss. For them, perhaps it has happened slowly over time, and they have not noticed. It is a good time to use specific and personal examples of hearing difficulties impacting their daily life.
You could mention that you noticed at the last family function that they had trouble following conversations at the dinner table. Perhaps they ask people to repeat themselves often. Maybe they enjoyed sitting in the garden but don't anymore. Why are the chirps no longer there?
Your loved one must know that you are only bringing up the topic of their hearing loss because you are concerned and you love them. Explain to them why you're concerned, whether it's because they have been more isolated or depressed lately or you're worried about their safety. Whatever your reasons are, be sure to explain that it comes from a place of love and concern.
Losing your hearing can be scary. Many people with hearing loss do not know what steps to take or fear taking those steps alone. Let your loved one know that you will help them find a solution.
Offer to make an appointment with an audiologist (BOOK HERE), accompany them to the appointment, or help them research hearing aid options. They may refuse your assistance but knowing you are there should they need you goes a long way in assisting them to move forward.
Most people with hearing loss need some time to accept that they need hearing aids. So be sure to allow them the time to process the conversation. They will come to their own decision in time. They must be mentally prepared.
The key to this conversation with your loved one is to approach it with love, compassion, understanding, and a willingness to help. By doing so, you can help your loved one take the first step towards better hearing health. Good luck, and we will be here when they are ready.
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